I notice that most of her examples are people in their 50's and 60's. That means they were all raised when the gender-role expectations about how Men Want It and Women Don't were in full swing. Even the youngest of them can remember when birth control became easily available, and despite the so-called "sexual revolution" that followed, it takes a lot more than a pill to really change culture.
*nod* Good point.
I do think that approach is likely to foster more problems in the long run, both in the relationship and in the sense that it reinforces cultural bullshit, but...and here I get really nasty and cynical...that's not really her problem.
But if her approach fosters more problems in a relationship she is trying to help fix doesn't that make it her problem by definition? She can't do much about cultural bullshit on her own, but she CAN help reinforcing that cultural bullshit in this particular case, not to mention encouraging one half of a partnership to do something that basically throws their right to bodily integrity out the window. I know you're playing devil's advocate, but it kind of baffles me that she wouldn't make that connection.
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on 2009-02-28 10:21 pm (UTC)*nod* Good point.
I do think that approach is likely to foster more problems in the long run, both in the relationship and in the sense that it reinforces cultural bullshit, but...and here I get really nasty and cynical...that's not really her problem.
But if her approach fosters more problems in a relationship she is trying to help fix doesn't that make it her problem by definition? She can't do much about cultural bullshit on her own, but she CAN help reinforcing that cultural bullshit in this particular case, not to mention encouraging one half of a partnership to do something that basically throws their right to bodily integrity out the window. I know you're playing devil's advocate, but it kind of baffles me that she wouldn't make that connection.